I will apologize upfront… This is going to be a long one! You see, I have a LOT to say on this subject.
I hope you will stick with me.
In my wellness approach with clients and on my Facebook Group Page, www.facebook.com/groups/theweighitis, I talk about the “Mind-Fuck”.
The Mind-Fuck is all the little ways we let our thoughts control our actions to sabotage progress in any given area of our lives. This applies to EVERYTHING – Weight loss, careers, relationships, financial goals… the list is endless. To be honest, my entire business is built around being #done with this type of behavior, because living a healthy lifestyle means starting with your mind first.
And while I could list dozens of things that contribute to the Mind-Fuckery of life; today’s topic is the SCALE.
Oh, that scale. Such a simple machine, but such a devious Master. Why Master? Because the scale can control us. It can control how we think, how we feel about ourselves, what we eat…. And WE give it that power.
How do we stop it? By putting it away.
Sounds simple, doesn’t it?? It’s not.
For YEARS I was addicted to the number on that little machine. It controlled my life. I got on daily (sometimes multiple times in a day…especially after starving myself!) and the number that appeared before my eyes dictated the way I felt about myself for DAYS. You see, I can fluctuate up to 6 lbs. on any given day.
This is me: 6:00 am/12:30 pm/ 10:30 pm – same day!
So, if I didn’t weigh myself at the exact (and I mean exact) time EVERY SINGLE DAY, the number on the scale could be off a few pounds. And because I wasn’t educated about all the factors that could contribute to those weight fluctuations, the number on the scale became my obsession. And ultimately, my downfall.
And I’m not the only one. Most of the people I talk to and/or work with feel the exact same way.
Just the other day I had a conversation with a woman regarding her journey.
**Please note that we are NOT working together. This was just a friendly chat.
Her: I’m working with a Nutritionist and I’m doing the Keto Diet. I was doing so well…. I lost 10 lbs. quickly! But (heavy sigh) THANKSGIVING came and I ate stuff I shouldn’t have eaten and BOOM, I was out of Ketosis and up TWO POUNDS.
Me: I know how frustrating that can be…especially when you’re working so hard. But if you don’t mind, may I ask WHY you got on the scale the next day?
Her: (A little shocked) Because I weigh myself every day.
Her: Because it’s my validation.
Her: (Possibly a little pissed off at this point) Where else would I get the affirmation that I am hitting my goals? I need the scale to prove that I am being successful in my efforts.
Me: Interesting. Now if you don’t mind me asking, how did the scale help you with your efforts when you saw the weight gain?
Her: (Flustered) Well, I guess it didn’t... I haven’t been able to get back into it since Thanksgiving and I am sure I’m out of Ketosis now.
~~~ There it is – SCALE SABOTAGE!! ~~~
Me: So, wouldn’t it be better to get your validations and affirmations by the way you FEEL, and NOT by a number on a scale? Wouldn’t it be easier to live a lifestyle that allows you to celebrate special occasions and not punish yourself for enjoying a day?
Her: Honestly, I never thought about it that way before. But I still don’t think I can give up the scale.
What an incredible power to give to a machine.
Generally speaking, it’s a machine that can ONLY give a reflection of the overall mass of an object and can’t discern for water, muscle, fat, bone, clothing, etc.
And there are numerous factors that can contribute to weight fluctuations that have nothing to do with actual FAT gain, like: Fluid retention, hormone imbalance, dehydration, and histamine response to food allergies… just to name a few.
Not to mention if you’re documenting your journey, like I am… An iPhone 7 in an Otter Box weighs over 10 ounces.
The scale will pick that “weight” up too...Ooof!
A little more Mind-Fuckery - Just saying!
What if we took that power away from a cold, plastic, inanimate object and, instead, gave the power to the incredible machine that is our BODY??
What if we decided to say FUCK YOU to the scale and be DONE with feeling bad about a number that is NOT the true reflection of our health? #fitnotskinny
What if we decided that we loved ourselves enough to continue our healthy lifestyles and not punish ourselves with another Mind-Fuck?
When you are TRULY ready to begin the journey as a lifestyle change, use the scale as a tool and not as a weapon to punish your body. Weigh yourself occasionally. Maybe every 4 months or so. But don’t let it be the factor that determines your success. My average weight loss is less than 1 lb. a week…But I am down 80 pounds and 6 dress sizes.
I am in better shape both physically and mentally than I have been in decades. THAT is the true reflection of health... not my scale.
Giving up the scale and the daily weigh-in are the biggest factors in allowing me to continue my journey and keep the weight off for over two years.
What are your thoughts on the scale sabotage? I’d love to have you weigh in! 😉
Stay tuned for my next post on the Mind-Fuck topic of the word “Diet” coming soon.